Category: Dating and Relationships
Hello, I just wanted some comments on this topic, so, I decided to post this question. How do you feel about dating your best friend or friend’s x girlfriend or boyfriend? Its kind of hard isn’t it and besides, there may be some conflicts that may arise during the relationship. Feel free to give me your view on this one. Thanks
well, this is a nice juicy topic like you say. It probably depends how the breakup was between the friend and the ex. If it was amicable, I don't see a problem, but just be very careful that you don't embarrass or talk about the one to the other, unless, if you talk to your friend about the ex, you're sure your friend won't report back to the ex. If the breakup was bad, I think that's of course a no-go, you lose your friend for his/her ex, or you don't have anything to do with the ex.
I'm currently dating a friend's ex actually. This friend used to be my best friend before she went completely mentally unstable, but that's another story. She had introduced me to her boyfriend as a friend and soon began setting me up with him because she was dissatisfied with the relationship. She loved him for the things he would do for her and not for him as a person. I, on the other hand, have been able to make this relationship work, despite the struggles we've had, and I love him genuinely for the person he is and he gives such in return. I believe dating a friend's ex is only bad if the friend or the ex haven't completely gotten over each other yet.
I agree with that, I think as long as your friend is alright with it, you can do it, but never put a guy or girl before a friend. That's not cool.
If one of the people from the former relationship hasn't excepted the fact that it's over between them and their ex, it's a recipe for disaster to date their friend
for guys is a rule written in stone... You should never date your friend's x. Think of it this way most likely if you start dating your friend's x, most likely you'll end up losing your friend. And is not a guarantee that the relationship with the x is going to last. So why lose a friend for life for someone that could most likely be there for a short while?
Just my opinion
Absolutely. Bros before hos, and Chicks before dicks ...
I agree. If the friend is ok with it, and the brek up was amiccable then I see no problem. I cannot tell how many times my friends and I have dated the same guys and realized how ridiculous it was... Trust me... chicks before dicks
For the record I'm almost certain we've had this discussion before, though I'm too lazy to look it up at the moment. But if you're interested, you can probably hunt it down in the boards.
yeah, if the break up was a mutual agreement, then there shouldn't be a problem, however, if one party was not agreeable to the split, ...uh oh, someone's gonna get very, very hurt and friendships will be ruined
I agree on you should not date your friend's boyfriend.
That happen to me. This girl I knew I thought she was my friend. But now I am unsure. She, tells me it is ok to tall me what you want to tell me. But then at first I was afraid.
ancient man law, passed down from generation to generation on the backs of stones and eventually beer cans state that thou shalt not date a friend's ex without the blessing of said friend without being asked or provoked to do so. It freaking sucks to date a friend's ex, seriously it is not worth it.
I think it depends on the people involved. If the x and the friend don't know each other very well, then perhaps they should have some consideration. However if say, they've known each other for like, four years, or if they simply can't help it, that's how it happens.
It's never a good thing, and it's one of the hardest relationships ever, and really shouldn't happen but sometimes things can't be helped.
i tend to agree with thoes who say you should never date your friend's ex. that's just like dating your sister or brother's ex.
agreed 100% with post 12.
what concerns me of dating the ex of a friend is, you know a lot about your friend, and if it were me, I'd be worried that the person might be tempted to do a lot of out loud comparing between me and the friend. which would seriously piss me off.
yep cam, too true
agree.
yeah, and, cause you kno a lot about your friend, the ex could complain to you that the friend didn't treat them right, or that the friend said something to them about you, wich he/she should never have told the ex to begin with. so the ex of your friend could have gotten with you, to see if the friend was right, or to make your friend gellous.
I agree entirely with post 12 and with the majority of peoples views here. In response to people saying sometimes things can't be helped, in my opinion situations can be avoided, if people feel considerate enough and care about those involved. A situation that can't be helped is one where no decision is offered. If someone has a choice, no matter how hard that choice is, they still have a choice and can therefore avoid it. You are right however, in saying it depends on the people involved and how bad/guilty they feel against their desires. Personally, I could never date a friends exe, i'd feel waaaay to weird and odd, but it's each to their own and how they feel and deal with the consiquences for the exe that matters.
oh, and I forgot to say that time means nothing. if the exe and the friend have known each other 5 minutes, or 5 centuries , it's still the same thing happening, the same consiquences etc. That's like saying, I've been married 5 minutes so I shouldn't have an affair, but I knew this guy/girl when I was in school 30 years ago, so that's ok.
Personally, dating any of your friend's is not a good idea. That's a betrail of trust and like stabbing your friend in the back. Yah your friend may tell u it's okay if u date their x, but really it just isn't cool,I haven't personally done that and will comtinue trying not to do so.exes
I agree with you. Yeah, I know the fact that it's easy to get close with the person because you spent some time with them before you decided to date them, but it does not change the fact that your friend dated this girl or guy. I think it depends how serious the relationship was, but in my opinion, it's not a good idea because if ever things don't work out, both of you will be affected. You and the person you plan to date will start to treat each other differently, and probably you and your friend's relationship will never be the same. Your better off dating someone that your friends didn't date. Well some times it works, but most of the time, it doesn't. I remember back in high school, I used to have a big crush on this guy, but my friend already likes him, so, I ended up not dating him. I think it's just a matter of respect towards your friend. If you know that they have a history together, don't even think of possibilities because not right.